We feel
envious when someone has something we want;
We feel jealous when we’re afraid of losing what we already have;
We compete constantly measuring ourselves against others.
We feel
envious when someone has something we want.
There’s benefit in accepting
envy because the right kind of envy can make you work harder for something. “If
you are curious and compassionate with yourself when you feel envious or
jealous, you may learn that there is something important missing in your
relationships or career. You can then use that insight to make changes in your
life that help you get or keep what is valuable to you,” Appio says.
Envy can easily turn
into jealousy because it narrows our perspective and creates a sense of
scarcity. But with benign envy - the kind of envy that hasn’t yet devolved into
jealousy - you simply recognize someone else’s fortune and want it for
yourself.
We feel
jealous when we’re afraid of losing what we already have.
We only feel jealous
when we think that we are in a direct competition with the person we are
jealous of. A student who feels jealous when one of his schoolmates is praised
by the teacher is actually afraid of losing the status to that competitor.
The more jealous you
feel towards a person the more weak you think you are compared to him. If
someone kept talking behind your back and kept saying bad things about you then
don’t feel bad because in many cases this can be regarded as a verbal
confession that you are better than him. If you found yourself feeling jealous
of other people then consider it the time to start changing things about
yourself instead of criticizing or hating them.
We all might feel
jealous at certain points of our lives but those who really understand jealousy
will try to fix their problems while others will only become envious and full
of hatred.
We compete
constantly measuring ourselves against others.
Competitive feelings
can trigger penetrating thinking of self-reflection. When we see someone whose is
doing better we ask ourselves what fatal flaw prevents us from generating the impressive
output they do. Aren’t we’re talented enough, or are we worse, or lazy, or shy?
Steps
to deal with competition in life
- Act gracefully. You can't guarantee that you will always succeed, but you can take charge of how you feel.
- Practice empathy. ...
- Use your sense of humor. ...
- Avoid and recognize covert competition. ...
- Deal with others who play dirty. ...
- Keep some information private to reduce competition. ...
- Create the right kind of environment.
Check WikiHow for
more https://m.wikihow.com/Deal-with-Competition
Check “The Power of Positive Thinking” a self-help book by Norman Vincent Peale
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